About a post ago, I contemplated the idea that married couples become one flesh. One way of looking at this is to see it as more than a mere combing of the two people. Eqaully important to what has been merged together into a new person is what each person left behind when they married. The process of being married and growing into one flesh is a process of letting go, of leaving pieces of our selves that there is room for our beloved.
As Paul noticed, there is something in this metaphor that speaks to us of the relationship between Jesus and those who truly follow him. I think seeing Jesus with this spin I have put on the whole thing is worth contemplating.
When he came to earth, he was humanized. Fully and completely. In some sense, he had spent all of eternity as an infinite vessel. When he was born this transformation had to happen. He limited Himself. He became a small cup, like all of us.
If we would marry Jesus, if we would be one with him, we will pour some of who we are into that cup. If we are married, the cup will already be intermixed. Regardless, we will go through again a process of leaving some of ourself behind. If we do not, there will be no room for Jesus at all.
Perhaps this is what is meant by dying to ourselves.