It’s so easy in life, so often, we ask “What should I do?” And we end up explaining the things that we shouldn’t do.
I’ve done that here. I began asking “How do we dwell in mystery?” and what I’ve answered is “Well, don’t build upwards.”
I should know better. One of the things that is critically important in helping to teach kids who have behavioral struggles is to get beyond “What we shouldn’t do.”
It’s not enough to tell students that they can’t throw chairs. Or swear at people. Or shut down.
We all need to be told more than what not to do. We need to be told what to do. More than stopping negative behaviors, I have to teach them positive behaviors. How to express frustration appropriately. How to use words which are acceptable. How to actually do their work.
Dwelling in mystery isn’t any different. So let me try again.