Some of the best people in my life are people who see potentials within myself that I did not know were there. Recently somebody made an offer to me that I never would have considered before. It involved taking on something of a new roll in my life.
The possibility that I might be able to do it had an interesting effect. It lead to me acting more like I was capeable of this role. There’s psychology to back this all up: A study was done many years ago in an elementary school class. They took the most troubled kids and doctored their records. The teachers thought that the most poorly-behaved students were the cream of the crop. What they found was that the students conformed to the teachers’ expectations: the formely challenged students actually became the cream of the crop.
After noticing what a positive change the event had in me, I was bopping about my life mostly reflecting that this is a positive thing.
But then I read this account of someone talking about how they did not want their identity wrapped up in anything other than Christ. They were headed to a new job, and they did not want this to impact who they were.
And I thought, “Yeah, that’s about right.” If we allow ourselves to be brought up by the good events, then we are that tied into the challenging things. If I say, “Wow, this really great thing, it’s a direct result of me, me, me.” Then when something lousy happens I have to similarly assert that this too is all about me, me, me.
Building a house on the sand is fun when the weather is nice.
So now, I find myself wondering, what’s the wisest way to navigate this tension?